Tuesday, April 27, 2010

Baby number 1

OK, so I've toyed with this, will I blog, wont I blog for some time now. Mostly because I dont really know where to start my story.
As you've already seen I've named my blog "Mom times 3" This is because being a Mom is probably the most of what I am. Yes, I'm an adult with a job & a life but like most Moms, my kids come first & everything I do is either for them or about them in some way. And so, I will start my blog with becoming a Mom....
1991, a year I will never forget. I had just turned 16. I had a boyfriend & for the first time in my short life, I felt loved. I had someone who said I was special. Wow!
Late 91, at 9 months (&10 days) pregnant, I finally got the pains I'd been waiting for. My baby was on the way. I climbed into my Daddy's Transit van & he drove me the short distance to the Rotunda hospital. Once we got there things moved quite quickly. I was admitted to the labour ward at 12 noon & by half past 3 my bundle was on the way. I was terrified!
4.12 PM & my life changed. After some unsuccessful pushing the midwife decided I needed " some help" Out came the forceps & minutes later my beautiful baby girl. I was absolutely thrilled!!! I finally had someone to love that would love me back unconditionally.
I know for a fact that having my baby saved me from so much heartache. Why? Because I grew up in a corporation estate with all my peers on cigs, booze & drugs. With a family like mine I was bound to follow in no time. My parents (who would die if they knew I'd put this on paper), really should never have had children. They spent years fighting each other & never showed any love or affection to either me, my sister or my brother. As a result we grew up thinking we were useless articles and fought with each other constantly. We had very little food, clothes,toys or toiletries. We still as adults feel this & both myself & my sis over compensate by buying rediculous amount of food, toiletries and underwear for ourselves & our children. Only the other day I had a conversation with a few friends about buying underwear. I made a comment about having lots & then decided to do a count just to see how obsessed I actually am. I wont put the number here but it me just answer by saying... VERY
Anyway, back to becoming a Mom. I took my beautiful daughter home after 2 days & was just over the moon with her. I loved everything about being a Mom. I was so proud to push her around in her new pram, She was & still is my world. I was now minus the boyfriend but I didn't mind in the slightest. I had a perfect little bundle & that was all I needed. Life seemed so simple.... Little did I know eh,x

17 comments:

  1. great start! welcome to the blogging world - hope you find it as enjoyable and therapeutic as i do! Can't wait to read more of your story - reckon it's going to be a good one!

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  2. I've not been public about that for a long time. I've had to pretend to be older in some situations,lol. I know it would be the end of the world for a mother to hear their 16 yr old is pregnant & if it was mine i'd be so upset for her, but it really was the making of me. It made me grow up & stand on my own 2 feet. A little early for some people but I did it & dont regret a thing. xxx

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  3. Wow that is some first installment, can't wait to read the next one now:) I am sorry you felt so unloved in your childhood that must have been so heartbreaking. Big hugs.

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  4. Having met Fada I can totally understand how she is so important to you. She is a truely remarkable, gentle and wonderful daughter and friend for you. I dare not count my undies or they'll have me committed hehe... Looking forward to your next post already :) xx

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  5. hey hun, a life of past very similar to myself, i know all too well, how proud you must be to tell this story as having met you i know your a remarkable lady , great blog, cant wait for the next one xxxxxx

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  6. Really enjoyed reading this and looking forward to finding out more :D

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  7. An excellent and very moving and well told post. I look forward to reading more. xx
    Ruth

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  8. Brilliant blog. Can't wait to read the next one. I can relate to you on the overstocking of presses etc. I am exactly the same now as an adult.

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  9. Oh wow, and that is just the first 16 years of your life! I love getting a peek into your life like this, having met you I know how fantastic you are and I have no doubt you were wonderful at 16 too :) Jen.

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  10. Way 2 go u. Well done on your new venture - I am so nosy I enjoy reading all the blogs so congrats on giving me something more to read xxxx Edel

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  11. isn't it tragic how many of us come from crap backgrounds?
    Maybe it makes us better people, but I think it really hits home when you have your own kids and can't BELIEVE that some people can neglect and abuse something so precious and vulnerable.
    Keep writing gal XXX

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  12. Welcome to the world of blogging momx3 and what a fantastic first post. I look forward to reading more! I came from a similar housing estate to yourself. xx Jazzy

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  13. great first blog I'm looking forward to more x x

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  14. Fantastic first blog, cant wait for the next instalment. Fada is a very lucky girl, she has a very special mammy xxx

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